WHAT IS YOUR OXYGEN?
Have you taken a plane lately? Flight attendants always tell passengers, “Parents, if you are traveling with your children and the oxygen masks drop, place a mask over yourself first, before attending to your children.”
If you give your oxygen away, you’re of no use to others (and you are likely to suffocate). This can be understood as a metaphor about meeting your own needs, versus taking care of others.
When you are deprived of basic emotional needs, such as love, connection, understanding and comfort, you may turn to food to symbolically meet those needs. Alternately, you may turn away from food as a way of expressing how deprived you feel.
What is your “oxygen?”
What are you depriving yourself of (but giving away to others)?
What do you need more of in your life?
How do you make yourself available to others?
Do you let others take care of you? If so, what does that stir up in you? If not, what stops you?
When you were growing up, what were you taught about self-sacrifice? (ie, was it noble?)
What is the difference between being selfish and practicing self-care?
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