Tuesday, February 11, 2020

Self-Love Commitment Week 2: What Makes You Happy?




Last week you had an opportunity to recommit to loving and appreciating yourself. Now it’s time to remove the roadblocks that stop you from attaining your goals and dreams. 

If only reaching your goals was as easy as ordering a one-way ticket to The Good Life, a land where the coffee flows freely, crazy mothers-in-law aren't allowed, and life is easy. Arriving at The Good Life isn’t as easy as moving through a TSA line and checking your bags, but you can arrive there by shifting your mindset. 

And that's why this week's commitment is... REEVALUATE.  

Start by writing everything that is stopping you from being happy. Don’t just consider your external circumstances. Note limiting beliefs or assumptions that contribute to your unhappiness. For example: Do you believe that you need to lose weight to feel happy or confident? 

Do you assume that you will feel more loved if only this “one thing” happened? Don't fall into the when...then... trap!  What’s stopping you from true happiness isn’t the weight, the bad job, or poor health. What's stopping you is the belief that you can’t be happy until the weight is gone, the marriage is fixed, or your boss stops acting like a fire-breathing dragon. 

If you believe that you can’t be happy today, I guarantee you won’t be happy today. Imagine that it’s springtime and you’re excitedly planting a garden. You plant strawberry, blueberry, and carrot seeds.   

Would you expect an apple tree to sprout from your strawberry seeds? Or zucchini to grow from the carrot plant? Of course not. As the proverb goes, we reap what we sow. Our minds are like a garden. If we plant seeds of hopelessness, criticism, and frustration, we will grow despair, hate, and anger. 

But, when we plant hope, acceptance, and compassion then peace, love, and change will flourish. Another proverb says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.” 

What is your vision?  What are your goals? 

Take a few more minutes to envision and then record specifically what you want to happen this year. These goals might be centered around positive values like self-acceptance and compassion. Learning to be more grateful, listening to your body every day, or processing difficult emotions rather than masking them.
 
What are YOUR goals? Share now by commenting below!

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