Wednesday, May 13, 2015

How to Accept Yourself

When you think about the concept of self-acceptance, what “self” do you think of first?  The one in the mirror?   Because there is so much more to you than meets the eye.  

In this video, I'll show you how to find a renewed sense of self-acceptance and feel better about yourself. When you feel good, you won't turn to (or against) food to comfort, numb or express yourself.

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    Saturday, May 9, 2015

    Having A Plan Of Recovery

                                                                  

    Eating disorders do not discriminate.  Men, women, boys, and girls of all ages and ethnicities have eating disorders.  

    I'm so pleased to introduce this guest essay from writer Patrick O'Neil, who shares his experience of struggle and hope.  


    Here is his story:






    "Recently I found myself backstage at a show.  I'm not really into shows anymore, especially not large ones.  I used to work in the music industry and I have attended more than my fair share of loud rock and roll concerts.

    But last week when my friend invited me and I tried to make an excuse not to attend, she countered with, “come on, it’ll be fun.” And even though I knew that it wasn’t going to be fun, I somehow let her talk me into it. It’s not just that I don’t really go see live music anymore, it’s also that I’m not the social type. I don’t really enjoy standing around making small talk in a room full of people.

    And yes, my friend is here, and so are her friends, and friends of friends, but it still feels awkward. 
    And now here I am stuck in the corner a of a crowded dressing-room, surrounded by people drinking a ton of alcohol, as some wannabe Hollywood scriptwriter that I have just been introduced to, yammers away about herself. Feeling trapped and disingenuous I try to nod my head in response at the appropriate moments, yet all the while wishing I were anywhere else but here.
    These types of situations are why alcohol was invented. And years ago if I was stuck at such an event I would have headed straight to the booze and after a few quick shots, none of this would have mattered. Only I no longer have that card to play. I used up my “getting loaded” allotment a long time ago. Besides alcohol just wasn’t doing it for me, I needed something much stronger. I needed to feel the warm rush of heroin, and only then was I comfortable enough to deal with life and all the people in it.

    Yet, the same old story prevailed, my addiction took over and what had once helped me cope was now ruling me. I went from being a musician/artist to junkie/criminal, and then my addict career abruptly ended when I was arrested and incarcerated.  I make some lame excuse to free myself from being corralled by the wannabe scriptwriter and slowly back away.

    But when I turn around I’m face to face with a table full of junk food. Band riders always call for snacks, and this one is no exception. There are bowls of chips, cold cuts, pizza and the customary cookies and candy. And herein lies my other addictive behavior—eating. 
    Years before I ever discovered drugs or alcohol I learned to abuse food as a way to suppress my feelings. My parents were more involved in their lives than they were in mine and I was left alone a lot. This led to many hours spent in front of the TV while shoving copious amounts of food into my mouth in an early attempt to lessen the pain of abandonment. Yet something about overeating triggered a self-loathing that was years ahead of my then adolescent self, and I soon found myself purging the junk food I was eating.

    This led to a learned behavior that I didn’t even realize others suffered from. It was something that I thought I had invented. Only my binge eating and purging faded away when I found that drugs and alcohol worked a lot better. Yet now here I was an adult in his fifties with fourteen years clean off drugs and suddenly I’m dealing with bulimia all over again.

    
It was quite a shock when my “dormant” eating disorder returned. I had switched careers and moved to a different city with the idea of reinventing myself. Although I had no connections and little in the way of support, I had high hopes and many expectations that I would be able to piece it all together. Luckily things did come together, but not without a lot of stress. Plus I was attempting to achieve greater goals in my life than I had ever tried before. 

    And with this all came an anxiety that I was ill prepared for. I experienced panic attacks for the first time in my life, and then, seeking that old familiar solace, I started abusing food. Segue to four years later and I was purging on a daily basis, only with years of recovery from drugs and alcohol under my belt I figured I should be more evolved than that, which led to even more guilt and shame, and instead of seeking help I pretended it just wasn't there. But my teeth and gums were suffering, I was not losing weight, I was gaining, I was getting more and more depressed and I constantly felt that I was living a lie.

    
Eventually I was so stressed out that I told my Narcotics Anonymous sponsor. He has worked with me for years and even though this wasn’t about drugs, it was about my addictive behaviors. Surprisingly, well at least to me it was, my sponsor totally understood, in fact he himself has issues around overeating.  Yet when he pointed out that the first step of NA states: “We admitted that we were powerless over our addiction; that our lives had become unmanageable.” I realized just how powerless and unmanageable my life had once again become.

    But this also gave me hope. I have fourteen years clean off drugs and alcohol and I have kept clean by attending meetings, working the 12 steps, and maintaining a rigorous involvement in the program. My situation had originally seemed so hopeless, yet here I was years later still off drugs. I could do this with my eating disorder.

    A week ago I went to an Overeaters Anonymous meeting. It had been years since I’d attended one, and unlike that first time when I was new to the idea of recovery, and not quite able to grasp the concept that it could also help me with my bulimia, this time I felt totally at home.

    Instead of just being a silent observer I introduced myself and shared my struggle. I was given a newcomer packet and phone numbers. And I walked out of there with a renewed sense of hope. I have yet to implement an OA plan of recovery, but I am taking it one day at a time, and feel like I am finally in the solution.

    I survey the food table and spot a platter of crudités, arranged around a bowl of gloppy blue cheese dip. I fill a small plate with broccoli florets, celery stalks, and baby carrots and slowly start eating them. Having something healthy to munch on takes my mind off the junk food, which lessens the cravings, and I am able to not indulge in any of the other snacks that I know will trigger another episode of purging. 

    A quick glance across the room and I see that the wannabe scriptwriter has captured another victim, and the crowd by the liquor has grown considerably. The show is now over and the backstage area has become incredibly even more crowded. I casually make my way towards the exit and walk outside. The cool air hits me and I toss the empty paper plate into the trashcan. 

    I have another day of not eating badly or purging, and I know I can do this."

    Patrick O’Neil is a nonfiction writer from Hollywood, California. His work has appeared in numerous publications, including: Juxtapoz magazine, Salon.com, The Weeklings, RazorcakeSensitive Skin, Fourteen Hills, and Word Riot. He has been nominated twice for Best of the Net, and is a regular contributor to the recovery website AfterPartyMagazine. Patrick holds an MFA in Creative Writing from Antioch University Los Angeles and teaches at AULA’s inspiration2publication program. His upcoming online course: Food Is Not The Enemy: The Language Of Eating Disorders, will allow writers of all levels to address their eating disorders, fears, and negative self-images. 

    Patrick’s debut memoir: Gun Needle Spoon, from Dzanc Books, will be available June 9, 2015 — an excerpted in part French translation, Hold-Up (13e Note Editions) was published in France in 2013. For more information please go to: www.patrick-oneil.com

    Gun, Needle, Spoon is also available on Amazon: http://goo.gl/UK15Yf

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    • I’ll give you a super-quick diet plan - and guess what? This diet does not involve food. It lasts a short time, but it will impact you for the rest of your life.
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    Sunday, April 19, 2015

    What You NEED to Know About Comfort Food

    Ever wonder, "Why food?" 

    Dr. Nina explains WHY you use food to cope and she tells you exactly what you need to do to change. Watch now!





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    Friday, April 17, 2015

    How The "F" Word Affects Your Weight

    I am a big fan of the "F" word.

    It's not what you might think.  It's not "fat" or "food" (and it's not the other "F" word, either!).  I'm talking about this word:

    Feelings

    Part of what makes us all human is our ability to feel emotions, so having emotions is part of what makes us feel truly alive.  However, we live in a culture that tells us there's something wrong with our feelings.

    Angry?  You have an anger management problem.

    Sad?  Take an anti-depressant. 

    Anxious?  There's a pill for that, too.

    Scared?  Be strong!  Fight!  Don't give in to fear!

    Happy?  You might be a bit too happy.  Hypomanic, maybe?

    No wonder people often have difficulty recognizing that emotions, needs, desires and reactions are part of being human, not a defect.  A feeling is a reaction to a situation, not a reflection of your character. 

    When you cannot identify or process uncomfortable or intolerable feelings, because the mere existence of those feelings is viewed as weak, bad or wrong, you may turn to food as a way of dealing with those feelings.  

    Food can't take away feelings.  As counterintuitive as it may sound, the only way to actually get rid of feelings is to actually feel them.    

    Check out these three common feelings:

    1) ANGER: Annoyance, frustration, rage and fury are all derivatives of anger.  It helps to make a gauge of what you're feeling.  On a scale of 1-10, what's a 10?  Rage?  Fury? 

    What's a 2?  Frustration?  Annoyance?  

    If you don't gauge your feelings, every emotion seems like a 10.  Everything feels like too much.  And if your feelings are overwhelming, you're more vulnerable to turning to food (or from it) for relief.

    Check in with yourself about your conflict over anger by finishing these sentences.

    I don't like getting angry because:

    I'm afraid to feel angry because it reminds me of:

    2)  SADNESS:  Gloomy, unhappy, glum, hurt, dejected, depressed, grieving, are all forms of sadness. 

    I don't like feeling sad because:

    I'm afraid to feel sad because it reminds me of:

    3)  HAPPINESS: You might be thinking, "Happiness is a good thing.  All I want is to be happy! "

    Some people are afraid of being "too" happy, fearful that the rug will be pulled out from under them.  They are afraid they'll lose that good feeling, so they sabotage themselves.  

    Food is also associated with celebration and reward.  We commemorate birthdays, achievements and transitions food and allow ourselves a "treat" for a job well done.  If food is associated with special celebrations, it's difficult not to eat or overeat on those occasions.

    I'll know when I'm happy when:

    If I let myself be happy, then:

    When you can identify, gauge, and process a range of emotions, you won't need food to escape, numb or distract yourself from them.

    And that's how you make peace with food!

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    Friday, April 3, 2015

    Do You Think People Are Judging You? Here's What To Do...

    When you walk into a room filled with strangers, what are your initial thoughts?

    Do you think the best?   All these people are interested in me and can't wait to meet me!

    Or the worst?   Everyone thinks I'm fat... boring... stupid.

    Sometimes these judgmental thoughts are automatic, as in the following examples:

    • Alyssa sat on the couch in my office, telling me about her weekend "stay-cation" of watching movies at home.   As I listened,  she suddenly stopped talking and sighed, saying, "You're right, I should have done some work this weekend.  I can't believe how lazy I am."
    •  Corinne wept in frustration as she described a recent problem at work.  She blew her nose and shook her head, apologetically.  "You probably think I'm such a crybaby."
    • My friend Bettina and I had dinner recently, and she ordered dessert.  She gave me a sheepish look.  "I know what you're thinking.  I have no business eating tiramisu.
    They thought they knew what I was thinking.   They were wrong!

    Each of these people  projected her own critical thoughts about themselves onto me.   Why?  

    Alyssa's father was a workaholic and accused her of being a slacker.  She thought I was viewing her through her father's eyes. 

    Corinne grew up in a family that did not tolerate emotions or tears, which were viewed as signs of weakness.  She imagined that I was viewing her tears contemptuously. 

    Bettina's mother constantly monitored her weight, and Bettina thought I was doing so, too.

    Those fears can make you want to isolate from other people, leaving you vulnerable to using food in any one of the following ways:   to fill an emptiness, to be a friend, for comfort, numbness, and escape.  

    Here's some "food for thought" to consider:

    What do you think others are thinking about you?   Are they critical?  Kind?  Indifferent?  Angry?

    Who viewed you that way in the past?   How are those thoughts familiar?

    What is another way to view yourself and the situation?  What would you say to someone else in your position?   

     
    Here's what I was ACTUALLY thinking, by the way, about Alyssa, Corinne and Bettina:

    It's important to relax over the weekend and recharge your batteries.
    It's healthy to cry if you're upset.
    It's okay to eat dessert, or anything, in moderation

    Don't be a mind reader! ('cause you're probably not really psychic!)

    When you think the worst, you feel terrible, and may eat to cope.  

    When you believe others are interested in you, you feel less anxious/upset/guarded and are therefore less likely to turn to food.

    That's how you make peace with food!

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    Sunday, March 15, 2015

    Do You Find This Pretty Annoying?

    If you're sick of people telling you that you have "such a pretty face" and if you just lost weight, you'd be dating up a storm, then watch this video! 


    If your relationship to food is causing you pain, whether it's bingeing, bingeing and purging, or restricting, there is a reason.  That reason may be out of awareness but it is still impacting you.  


    When you figure out what lies beneath, you can take steps to address those underlying emotions and conflicts ('cause it's not just about emotions!!) and take steps to change.


    Dr. Nina helps you win the diet war by making peace with yourself.









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    Thursday, March 12, 2015

    Behind The Billboard: One model's confession about what's really going on

    Today's guest post is from Briauna Mariah.  Here's her inspiring story and her revolutionary mission:
    "I was never one of those girls who "always" wanted to be a fashion or runway model. It was suggested to me when I stopped growing and realized I was 5'11" and slender. I thought it would be a good way to pay for college. I never thought modeling would change my life, but it has.
    I still remember hearing my first agency booker tell me, "You are a product, so don't take what I say as personal." It's impossible not to take it personal when someone tells you, "You have too much baby fat, come back in 6 months." I was 15 years old with a BMI of 18!
    Every aspect of a model's skin, hair, curves, walk...is constantly criticized. She is never good enough. As a society, our beauty standards in the fashion world are warped. They are completely unrealistic. Yet, young girls are expected to conform. This is what it feels like to be a model. Moldable.
    Being represented by an agency has always been a stressful experience for me. I was always pressured one way or another, bullied strategically, bossed around, and strung along for months along waiting for my paychecks. At one point, I weighed 123 pounds (at 5'11") and was still being told to lose more weight. "You'll never be an international model unless your waist is smaller!" My waist was 23" at the time.  
    Sadly, the experience is the same for so many women. Young girls losing too much weight is too often celebrated! This perpetuates and encourages eating disorders among young girls across the globe.
    Once I realized how much damage I was doing to my body, I kept wondering when things would change. 
    Everyone talks about it. People complain about the unrealistic images painted by the glossy campaigns, the high end runway shows and photos so edited they hardly resemble the actual model. 

    The damage to the models themselves is only a fraction of the problem. The media creates this expectation of perfection. Our kids see this and can't stop wondering, "why don't I look like that?"
    Shouldn’t something be done about the way models are being exploited? 

    Shouldn’t someone, somewhere do something instead of just talking about it? 
    I realized if I wanted to see change, I had to take action myself. I decided to create a modeling agency to promote positive change, diversity and health.

    Changing the way media portrays women will help eliminate the root of many eating disorders, self-esteem issues and even social bullying. Promoting health as the new standard will create positive images we can be proud to have our kids aspire to."





    Briauna is the founder of We Speak, a modeling agency designed from the ground up to empower and protect models, give designers and consumers a choice to make a difference, plus create an advertising culture we can be proud to have the next generation look up to. 

    Learn how you can help support revolutionary change by visiting: 

    For more information:  917-274-7324

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