Sunday, March 15, 2015

Do You Find This Pretty Annoying?

If you're sick of people telling you that you have "such a pretty face" and if you just lost weight, you'd be dating up a storm, then watch this video! 


If your relationship to food is causing you pain, whether it's bingeing, bingeing and purging, or restricting, there is a reason.  That reason may be out of awareness but it is still impacting you.  


When you figure out what lies beneath, you can take steps to address those underlying emotions and conflicts ('cause it's not just about emotions!!) and take steps to change.


Dr. Nina helps you win the diet war by making peace with yourself.









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Thursday, March 12, 2015

Behind The Billboard: One model's confession about what's really going on

Today's guest post is from Briauna Mariah.  Here's her inspiring story and her revolutionary mission:
"I was never one of those girls who "always" wanted to be a fashion or runway model. It was suggested to me when I stopped growing and realized I was 5'11" and slender. I thought it would be a good way to pay for college. I never thought modeling would change my life, but it has.
I still remember hearing my first agency booker tell me, "You are a product, so don't take what I say as personal." It's impossible not to take it personal when someone tells you, "You have too much baby fat, come back in 6 months." I was 15 years old with a BMI of 18!
Every aspect of a model's skin, hair, curves, walk...is constantly criticized. She is never good enough. As a society, our beauty standards in the fashion world are warped. They are completely unrealistic. Yet, young girls are expected to conform. This is what it feels like to be a model. Moldable.
Being represented by an agency has always been a stressful experience for me. I was always pressured one way or another, bullied strategically, bossed around, and strung along for months along waiting for my paychecks. At one point, I weighed 123 pounds (at 5'11") and was still being told to lose more weight. "You'll never be an international model unless your waist is smaller!" My waist was 23" at the time.  
Sadly, the experience is the same for so many women. Young girls losing too much weight is too often celebrated! This perpetuates and encourages eating disorders among young girls across the globe.
Once I realized how much damage I was doing to my body, I kept wondering when things would change. 
Everyone talks about it. People complain about the unrealistic images painted by the glossy campaigns, the high end runway shows and photos so edited they hardly resemble the actual model. 

The damage to the models themselves is only a fraction of the problem. The media creates this expectation of perfection. Our kids see this and can't stop wondering, "why don't I look like that?"
Shouldn’t something be done about the way models are being exploited? 

Shouldn’t someone, somewhere do something instead of just talking about it? 
I realized if I wanted to see change, I had to take action myself. I decided to create a modeling agency to promote positive change, diversity and health.

Changing the way media portrays women will help eliminate the root of many eating disorders, self-esteem issues and even social bullying. Promoting health as the new standard will create positive images we can be proud to have our kids aspire to."





Briauna is the founder of We Speak, a modeling agency designed from the ground up to empower and protect models, give designers and consumers a choice to make a difference, plus create an advertising culture we can be proud to have the next generation look up to. 

Learn how you can help support revolutionary change by visiting: 

For more information:  917-274-7324

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Saturday, March 7, 2015

How To Get Rid Of Feelings

Ever wish you could just be DONE with painful, difficult, upsetting emotions?

You can't eat them away, starve them away, purge them, let them go or ignore them.  There's only one way to get rid of feelings.  WATCH NOW to and find our how!





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Thursday, March 5, 2015

Hope Appears In The Distance

   
Today's guest blog is written by a survivor of sexual and emotional abuse who wishes to remain anonymous.  Her story illustrates how victims of abuse often enact the abuse they suffered from others on their own bodies.   Today, she is battling to feel whole, to feel lovable, to stop the abuser-abused cycle.  As her title suggests, there is hope on the horizon.  Note: some descriptions may be triggering 


           " If my mom ever found out I was writing this and essentially telling the world our dirty family secret, I believe I would be disowned. If her husband ever found out, I would be killed. I’m sure you think I am exaggerating, but by the time you finish reading this, you will believe me.

So why would I want to share my story and risk so much? I believe that it is important to own our stories. And by sharing our stories with others, perhaps we can find purpose in our pain. Maybe my story will encourage someone to reach out for help. And if I can help one person by telling my story, it is worth the risk.

I thought I was fat when I was a toddler, and by the time I was six, I refused to sit on anyone’s lap. I was terrified that I would somehow break them. So, although I believe the abuse played a significant role in my eating disorder, I cannot say that it was the total reason for it.

My mom remarried when I was about nine or ten. Almost immediately he began making weird comments, trying to touch my chest, and sleeping naked with his bedroom door open. I didn’t quite understand what was happening. When I found money all over my bedroom the next morning, I thought something magical had happened. What kid doesn’t like finding money?

But then it happened. I can’t say I remember everything that happened. The abuse happened in one form or another until Easter 2011. I was watching TV. It was a school night. He started touching my legs. I froze. What was happening? What was about to happen? I knew it wasn’t right, but I couldn’t scream or move or do anything. I was terrified. Then he moved my underwear to the side. I was so scared I couldn’t move.

After he was done, he went to my mom and confessed what he had done.    Instead of my mom being angry at him, she told me to pack my bags. She sent me to stay with my aunt and uncle for a few days. So many people knew what had happened. No one did anything about it.

During this time, I began starving myself. I thought that if I looked like a little girl, he wouldn’t want to touch me anymore. When I did eat, I would purge. I would restrict until I passed out. I tried so hard to make my body disappear. I thought that as I got older, I would learn to accept my body, so the purging and restricting wasn’t a big deal.

Except now it has been over twenty years of purging, bingeing, abusing diet pills and laxatives, etc. I continue to abuse my body. I have picked up where he left off. I’m not sure why I feel like I deserve to be miserable. I push people away who try to help.

When you’ve been abused, it’s really hard to trust people. And when no one cared about your wellbeing as a child, why on earth would anyone care about you now that you’re an adult? And maybe I don’t deserve for people to care. Maybe I don’t feel like I am good enough to have people love me or care about me. But I’m trying.

It’s a battle every single day, but if I give up, then they win.  I can’t let that happen. And if I give up, who will tell my story? Who will help the kids who are falling through the cracks of the system? 

I believe I have my story so that I can help others, and I can’t help anyone if I give up.
  
Hope appears in the distance
Childhood stolen
Innocence lost
Your selfish needs met
At any cost

Nightmares begin
Afraid to fall asleep
No one can know
The secrets I keep

Broken and torn
Shattered into pieces
He’s the monster under the bed
The nightmare never ceases

Cutting and starving
Trying to disappear
No one comes to help me
Why am I even here?

The silent screams for help
The tears I’m not allowed to cry
People know and remain silent
I just want to die

Resurrection of my soul
My story finally spoken
No longer wishing to die
No longer feeling broken
-Becca"
Becca recently earned her Masters Degree lives with her dog, Charlie, somewhere in the United States.  You can follow her blog, Broken Pieces:  My Journey To Freedom.

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Wednesday, March 4, 2015

How To Say NO To People





















Do you often agree to do things you don’t want to do?  Do you give in too easily?  Here are some possible reasons why it may be difficult for you to say no:
  • Feeling guilty – as if it’s wrong to choose yourself
  • Feeling greedy – as if it’s greedy to choose what you want if someone else wants something different
  • Not wanting to come off as difficult – as if saying no makes you difficult and too much trouble
  • Not wanting want to upset anyone – as if you’re responsible for the feelings of others
  • Afraid to hurt someone’s feelings – as if what another person wants, thinks or feels is more important than what you want, think or feel
  • Fear of rejection – as if people won’t like you or want to be your friend if you disappoint them
  • Fear of retaliation – as if people will reject/hurt/abandon you if you displease them

 Which of these resonates with you?

Saying "NO" and eating disorders:

If you say “yes” when you really mean “no,” what happens to your resentment towards the person making the request?  Or your anxiety about doing something you don't want to do?   When you don’t express emotions in words, you’re vulnerable to disordered eating in the following ways:

*Turning to food for comfort or distraction. 
*Bingeing and purging as a way of symbolically ridding yourself of your emotions.
*Restricting as a symbolic way to deny that you feel anything.
*Getting upset at yourself for your weight

How do you avoid this?  By saying “no” when people ask you to do something you don’t want to do. 

How To Say NO:

Step One:   Acknowledge the other person’s request:  

I know you really need or want me to _______________________________.

Step Two: set the limit.  

But that doesn’t work for me. 
I'm not comfortable with that.
That is not something I can fit into my schedule.

For example, if someone asks to borrow money, say, “I understand you’re in a tough place right now, but I make it a rule not to lend money to friends.”  That way it’s not personal; you’re denying your friend in particular; this is your rule, these are your boundaries. 

Don’t apologize, Don’t make excuses, Don’t justify or explain.    

Do set limits.


Give yourself the right to have rights – the right to set boundaries, the right to you’re your needs, wants, time and interests as important as those of others.  

When you are comfortable with those rights, you won’t need to comfort or distract yourself with thoughts of diet, weight, exercise or calories.  And that's how you make peace with food!

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Monday, March 2, 2015

Join me and 27 other EXPERTS


Introducing theMindful Eating World Summit, hosted by Dr.KelleeRutley D.C.

Take your health, your body and your MIND back!

This 14-day Virtual Event begins on March 16, 2015.

Claim your FREE virtual seat here:  http://bit.ly/1Djy5LZ

Do you have that nagging feeling, that if you just had that one illusive “secret” to unlock the door to your OWN “innate” healing powers, that you would finally reclaim your health, take back your body AND your mind? Stop the insanity of up and down weight and on and off dieting? Are you finally ready to create REAL HONEST HEALTH AND HAPPINESS?

This is about REAL health and life long vitality. No more fads, schemes and rollercoaster dieting. We know deep down that much of what we have been taught about nutrition, fitness and health is just plain wrong. It’s time to reveal the truth behind the smoke and mirrors of the “diet world” once and for all.

That's why I’m so excited to be a part of Dr. KelleeRutley’s virtual event. She’s brought together over 28 amazing POWERHOUSE experts to help you remove the guilt, shame and confusion around weight release and TRUE health – and replace that with powerful ideas that work to EMPOWER you! It’s all the information you’ve wanted, needed and have been looking for, all in one place.

We are Doctors, Educators, Scientists, Zen Masters, Psychologists, Naturopaths and Holistic Chefs (and one Psychoanalyst)!   New York Times and Hay House authors, World Renowned Master Trainers and Coaches.Many of us have had our own issues with poor health and unhealthy weight rollercoasters– and our personal stories reflect that. 

Together, we’ll reach optimal health, vitality and happiness!


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