Mirror, mirror on the wall…
Who’s the fairest one of all?
Ever look at yourself in the mirror and think you look okay, even good - but five minutes later your image in the same mirror seems distorted and huge?
Is what you’re seeing in the mirror reality? Or is it a reflection of an inner conflict?
Our perceptions of ourselves can be influenced by emotions, needs, and wants.
If you think you look “fat” or “too big” perhaps that is an expression of your conflict over needs and wants. Do you feel as if you’re too much for others? That you want too much? Do you imagine that you burden people with your needs? That sense of wanting too much, or needing too much, can be unconsciously experienced as seeing yourself as literally too big.
What do you need that you’re not getting?
What do you want more of in your life? Love? Compassion? Interest? Friends? Connection? Money? Security? Safety? Joy? Fun?
What’s “too much” about you, and where did you get that idea about yourself? People who grow up in families in which emotionality is labeled “dramatic” or “oversensitive” learn to dismiss their feelings and think that their emotions are too much. This can then be expressed in concrete, physical terms about their size.
If you struggle with disordered eating, the mirror can lie. What is your truth?
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