I
have a magic wand in my office. If only it worked the way Harry Potter's
does in books and movies!
If my wand had actual powers, I'd wave it over
people and magically heal their relationship to themselves. I'd instantly
create self-acceptance to replace self-criticism and help people process
feelings instead of turning on themselves, using food/weight as a weapon.
Alas,
the magic wand doesn't work. But here's the good news:
you do have the power to change, to identify patterns and destructive
attitudes and to react and act differently in your life.
We all have our own magic within
us. We can heal ourselves with a combination of insight, hope, tenacity,
reflection, courage, and more.
Eating
disorder behavior and thoughts often serve to distract from deeper fears and
conflicts. When you can work through these concerns, you may no
longer need the eating disorder to cope with the uncomfortable/unbearable
feelings that arise from them. Imagine if in a wave of a magic wand, all
thoughts of food, weight, calories, fat grams, or anything connected to
disordered eating are completely blocked. If these concerns no
longer occupied your mind, what would you think about?
Fear
of abandonment: concern that others will leave you and that you’ll
be alone. Is this a familiar concern? If so, what comes to mind?
Fear
of rejection: concern that other people will judge you and won’t
like you. When is the first time you remember feeling this way?
Fear
of punishment: Fear that you’ll get in trouble or be
punished in some way. Do you feel this way a lot?
Guilt: Feelings of
guilt or fear that you’re going to feel guilty in the future. Often
this guilt leads to anxiety, which is felt as one of the above fears. For
example, “If I do something wrong, then others are going to react by either
abandoning, rejecting or punishing me."
Addressing
the underlying fear and working through it, what it is and where it came from
(easier said than done!!) can help you be less worried about these issues.
And when you're not as worried, anxious or fearful, you are less likely to turn to or from food to cope.
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